To try to find security in relationship brings insecurity. ================================================================================================================
Thought's purpose is not to find the meaning of life and many other
psychological things. It's purpose is to choose what kind of bread to
buy,
etc - practical things. It must bring order to itself and its
environment
so it can peacefully end and make room for the otherness (love).
Thought's security is in the past. It's movement is in time: the past
and the future (usually a projection of the past - the known).
Psychological time is illusion. There are two kinds of time:
psychological
and chronological. Chronological is by the watch - 23:38 Friday July 9,
1999". The other kind of time, psychological, is only in our minds -
e.g.,
"tommorrow, I will quit smoking", or "tommorrow, I will not be
jealous",
or, "will she love me forever", etc. - This psychological time is
illusion.
I will be in the future what I am now unless I change now. Thst is very
logical. If I do not change now, when will change come about? Any
change
has to come about in a "now" otherwise it will never come about.
Thought
is time - psychologically - and being so, it breeds fear. If you see
this
in daily life - if thought sees the fact that in operating within time,
it gets itself bound up in fear - it ceases to do so.
The brain is used to having problems. Since childhood, parents saying
“No”, then having to learn mathematics, etc..
The brain is used to solving problems – when it has nothing to solve
it creates a problem. Seeing all this is the end of it – not as a final
act – I suspect finality implies time, but insight is in the present –
change is in the present.
The brain so easily falls into sorrow – sorrow is a common lot of
mankind
– and many traditions worship sorrow. Sorrow must be eradicated,
uprooted.
To be alone is to be all-one. It is possible to be alone and be with
others, and also, to be with others and still lonely.
Whole is holy. Whole is not-broken up. To be truly an individual
means
to be indivisible (not broken up, fragmented with conflict). To not be
broken up is to be all-one = alone.
It is a misnomer that suffering is necessary for progress: suffer now
so as to grow. Some religions go as far as saying all of this life is
just
a stepping stone – some even promote laying on beds of nails to reach
god!
But it is important to learn from suffering and growth does come from
that
learning but the suffering itself is not a necessity for growth.
Do not compare yourself with others. Comparison requires measurement,
and measurement is not accurate. Comparison destroys a child. I've seen
many examples. See article on authority.
The dominant process in the human is “thought”. Thought has a place,
a purpose, in life. It’s primary purpose is to understand practical
matters,
etc., but our culture and education has over-emphasized thought, so
thought
has become a dominant process. When thought steps out of it’s right
place,
it can become human’s enemy and create all kinds of psychological
miseries.
The roots of thought, thinking, need to be understood. Thought is a
material
process – a physical process – as electro-chemical exchanges
between
the brain cells. Thought is mostly based on the past. From experience,
memory is gathered, which is knowledge. Movement of thought based on
the
past prevents the clear perception of the present. The present, the
now,
is living. Perception of the present through the eyes of the past, the
residue of the past, is distorted. The thought of future is usually a
projection
of the past. So, thought is a movement in time – in past and future.
Being
based on experience, thought is limited because experience is limited.
Being limited, thought is divisive – it divides. It’s nature is to
divide
– in order to understand, thought must break a thing down to its
components.
When thought enters relationship, it can do the same: divide. So,
thought
is responsible for having divided humanity – politically, religiously,
etc. Thought creates the “I”, and so, the “You”. The “I”, the “self” is
only a bundle of experiences, memories, as thought. So when thought is
silent, the I as a separate entity does not exist. Silence of thought
can
not come by force. It comes naturally when there’s order in one’s life,
room, relationships. Order is the root of virtue. It comes when the
mind
realizes thought’s limitation – when thought itself realizes its
limitation.
When the I who thinks of itself as a separate, isolated entity comes to
an end, division ends and there’s freedom. Freedom is not a final event
in time – it is moment to moment.
To be responsible in relationship is to have no image. Can we live
without image of others and no image of ourselves. Image making is
recursive
- you might have image of other's image of you...Images are made out of
thought. When thought sees its own limitation it ends. With quieting of
thought, image making ends. Then you walk into boss's office who hurt
you
yesterday with a quiet brain and no recollection and be totally in the
poresent and listen to inner and outer movements, words, etc., the
relationship
changes. Approaching another in the present changes the relationship.
You
give the other space to change. If you see other with the eyes of the
past,
you are prompting them to act that way and that action strenghthens
your
image and such is the cycle of misery and living within small walls of
thought.
It's good to sit quietly and de-weed the mind. It's like running an
anti-virus program or checking the hard disk for bad sectory /
defragmenting
the disk, etc.. :-) ================================================================================================================
It is important to empty the mind of it’s content – that is a natural
process which happens for example through dreams – but when it happens
while one is awake, that is meditation. Writing is a great way of
emptying
the mind and letting issues flower. Insights come as result of seeing
what
it.
Change comes naturally from understanding, seeing what is – without
trying to change it. One sees what one is in the mirror of
relationship,
with people, things, ideas. That is a natural law. In the conflict
between
what is and what should be there’s friction which is loss of energy –
the
very energy which is necessary to change. This holds true in
relationship
with others too – some people like fights/conflicts because it gives
them
a sense of being, importance, and energy. But energy derived from
conflict
is the wrong kind of energy – its quality is distorted, let’s say.
Peace,
the energy of not having lost energy through conflict, nor, having
gained
energy through the heat produced by friction, has a totally different
quality.
Never be afraid to ask the impossible question. A possibility is only
created by asking. I bring one very crude example: one time I went to
buy
gas(petrol). The car-wash had shut-down at 5 pm. It was 5:10. I asked
almost
jokingly if she can turn on the car-wash – and she did! (this was in
the
old days that I unfortunately had a car). The alternative was to assume
it's closed and so be it. There are many examples - much subtler ones
than
this.
Is it possible to live without craving? without dependance? without
fear? surely. but you have to find out in daily life through
undrestanding
of "what-is".
When confused, like being lost in jungle. You don't know where North
and South is, so any way you go it could be the wrong direction. So,
what
you do is STOP! Be totally still.
================================================================================================================ Love is the greatest gift of all – to have a
body/heart/mind
which is wiped clean of hatred. To find love, Eliminate that which is
not
love. Love has its own intelligence.
The body has its own intelligence. When it’s highly sensitive, it feels
pain at just being near a drunk person. Or feel the pain of a smoker's
body with a handshake...
There is no system and method for meditation. Systems are mechanical
and a mind that repeats becomes dull. Meditation is the emptying of the
mind through paying attention to thoughts and feelings.
Thought can be our best friend and our worst enemy. A good experience
need not be recalled in memory because it has already affected one's
being
- it's a part of one. Life brings us good things if we let go of the
past
and live with facts. Thought, being mainly based on past, acts in a
limited
realm. Its projection of the future is also based on the known. We must
be aware of thoughts and feelings. The click is this: awareness of what
I am, what I'm thinking, what is, brings change. It' a natural law. But
seeing is an art. To see without a seer as seperate - without judging,
trying to change, etc.. That seeing is action!
================================================================================================================ The Great Question: “What is wrong with me? What
bothers
me?” This question allows for inquiry into what I am and the elements
that
bother me at this point in time – writing helps in listing those
elements.
Sometimes a physical aspect is involved – e.g. having eaten too much
corn-bread.
More often it's something psychological: someone said something and
it's
residue still remains - or I thought something and was concerned about
something and I didn't finish with it - it's still hanging in my head
and
bothers me - so, by paying attention to it and devising action it's
rested
in its right place and life can carry on without a residue of the
past.
It is really great to live without fear. Physical fear for survival,
e.g. of a dog, is natural. But that translates into our psyche and we
try
to protect the "self" which is like a bubble anyway, made out of
memories.
I believe it's impossible to live fully without fear as long as one
eats
animals (see article on diet). Psychological fear is usually based on
thought
and time. Thought needs to see its own limitation and that
undrestanding
brings change.
Talks with a friend whose boyfriend had dumped her
Take care of the body.
Don't think too much - thought is divisive: it divides.
Thought is based on time - movement from past to future - based on
knowledge - and so is limited.
The controller is the controlled.
Thought must see its own limitation.
Looking at what is brings emptying - and self-knowledge.
To observe dependance.
Physical loss due to body's being used to another.
Golden rule: to see what is brings change.
There are many reasons for dreams:
1) Over eating – bad stomach
2) Mind cleansing itself or past, perhaps incomplete experience in
which it was not fully attentive (of e.g. conditioned responses, some
of
which can be very subtle in the form of a flash of thought or feeling.
3) Psychic connection: if another one thinks of me, I usually pick
it up in dream, maybe because the brain (the receiver) is quiet. The
most
amazing example of this was when my father and I (who are one! ?)
dreamed
the same dream at the same time when he was 3000 miles away!
4) Intuition – getting hints from deeper layers of intelligence (for
lack or better words).
It’s important to have a strong energy field/body/clear, orderly mind
and life, otherwise one is susceptible to negative psychic influences.
Sorry to be unscientific now - these are not purely beliefs, but also,
not firm facts. Ghosts probably do exist in some form. They’re weaker
than
a person who has a body. If there are “holes”, ‘cracks” in your energy,
they can suck your energy, etc.. If they are around – e.g. in a “hunted
house”, it is best is to advise them to stay outside. Psychic powers do
exist, but they’re not to be messed around with, certainly not to be
proud
of. Healing is real – I’ve seen miracles happen time and again. There
are
may example – here’s one: I had a persisting problem in my knee. I
asked
a friend with good energy to touch my knee. He held his hand on it for
a few minutes. That night as I sat in the train I felt something like a
beam go from my knee and out my toe, and my knee was completely healed.
Another time, I gave a foot message to a woman who had a zit on her
ankle.
In font of our eyes, the zit simply disappeared. The greatest of
healers
say, it is not the healer – but the energy – they’re simply an
instrument
– and sometimes it works and sometimes not. Other examples of miracles
are numerous. Angels or some kind of protective energy probably do
exist.
One form maybe loved ones who died and who are perhaps in the psychic
realm,
in the stream of mankind’s consciousness (because they did not end
their
suffering when alive?) or outside it - come back to you if you are in
peace
– they do not like to go where there’s conflict (according to a sage
with
psychic insights - it makes sense - we don't like to be in a place
where
there's conflict either!). “The stream”? It’s the quality of one’s life
and mind that continues. Quality, like smell, continues – but then
it’ll
change – maybe reincarnate? I don’t accept reincarnation as it’s
generally
accepted.
OCT 2007 - Associated Press
34 percent of people who say they believe in ghosts, according to a
pre-Halloween poll by The Associated Press and Ipsos. That's the same
proportion who believe in unidentified flying objects — exceeding
the 19 percent who accept the existence of spells or witchcraft.
Forty-eight percent believe in extrasensory perception, or ESP.
The most important mission of a person in life is to end his/her
suffering,
which takes intelligence and really questioning one’s way of life,
habits,
etc.
There’s a point on the forehead (perhaps thereabouts inside the
brain?),
between the eyebrows that gets very active – like a sensor – when the
brain
is quiet, when one sits still, when eyes are still, and when near a
strong
body of subtle energy. Science links it to unknown parts of the brain
that
becomes active when the brain’s quiet.
9Jun99 - To be able to move on mentally is a blessing , but thought's
very existence is rooted in continuity. Thought thrives on continuity
whereas
movement is of death - to be open to tne new is to die to the old.
- Last night in bed with lights off: The ego is a hinderance to
totality.
Totality is in operation in this being. Its work is not to be
interfered
with ego. Ego has its purpose - practical decisions... but to think of
itself as everything that this being is about, and seperate with its
own
problems and future, is wrong. The hand of otherness is clear as day.
It
operates in one's life - one buy one thing and gets 2 and it turns out
2 was absolutely necessary... - and in one's brain. Key: don't
struggle,
don't chase.
Death is a tabooed subject in the culture. It is to be avoided at any
cost until you're about to die - then you're scared s---less. But the
fact
is that death is always around the corner. And to live with death
actually
adds a very beautiful quality to life: knowing that X won't be there
forever
sweetens the relationship with love.
sep 2001
It’s important to end desire to want to reconnect with some people
of the past. Some amount of effort is warranted but one should give up
if it does not come through (the danger is the unfulfilled desire may
have
to fulfill at some point in future, irregardless of body’s death - who
knows?!?!?!).
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"biology" has its own laws that we can attribute to deeper layers of
cause and effect - not necessarily the "will" of the unknown......
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perhaps one of the key differences between a non-bodied and a bodied
entity (alive person) is the ability to breath. Breath, life force,
prana, is an amazing resource.
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[May 26, 2004]
the bottom line is that I don't know. we can have the best of theories,
but ultimately our brains are physically limited to "know" anything
beyond its limits. This was crystal clear when I was 8 years old or so,
and nothing with respect to that has changed a bit. There is another
movement, and if one lives intelligently, "religously" in the right
sense of the word, one leaves the window open for that movement, that
breeze, that otherness, to come. That's all you can do. Even then,
knowing is crippled and miniscule compared to the scope, power, and
vastness of the other.
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>but I guess time
>will heal as it goes by.
yes and no
in some aspects chronological time has no effect on psychological
matters.
thinking is rooted in time and is the cause of much pain so one key to
ending suffering is for thinking to learn where it belongs (practical
matters) and where it doesn't (psychological realm).
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Selfpity is such a strong human condition that the idea that people
have not changed has become a dominant excuse and justification for
being a victim of an unfortunate situation and therefore staying in it:
amazing how the mind tricks itself into not changing and who else but
K's own words are used to provide that cushion of comfort!
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